You guys!
I just realized.
Making a decision is a process
that takes
time.
Who in the hell
gave me the impression
that the space between
having a decision to make
and making the decision
needs to be tiny?
My internal narrative has been
“Aaaauuugh
I don’t know what I’m doing with my life”
But I just noticed:
I am calm.
Oh.
Yeah.
I am not lost.
I am not “drifting.”
I am busy making decisions.
To pause
and consider
is really,
truly,
just
fine.
fine.
Here is the tangentially related article I mentioned to you recently: http://www.newsweek.com/science-making-decisions-68627
ReplyDeleteOne of the most valuable things I learned in design school was the phrase "let me get back to you". Works when you're talking to yourself :)
ReplyDelete(For what it's worth, the other was how to say yes to everything: "Yes, I can totally make that change for you... it'll cost another $1000, 3 weeks, etc" or "Yes, you can totally blow up that dynamite, you just need to get the approval of these 40 people in the next 7 hours...")
When you are in doubt, be still, and wait; when doubt no longer exists for you, then go forward with courage. So long as mists envelop you, be still; be still until the sunlight pours through and dispels the mists-- as it surely will. Then act with courage. Ponca Chief White Eagle (1800's to 1914)
ReplyDeleteI think making the decision is the final result of much living beforehand.
ReplyDeleteI wish I could do that
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